Counter Assertion

April 10th, 2008

When The Spirit Leaves The Body

Posted by admin in School of Psychology

Do you spend most of your time inside or outside of your body? If you know what I’m talking about then I can almost certainly say that you have spent some time outside of your body.

What does it even mean to “be outside” of one’s body? Well, in order to appreciate what this means you must have an experience of your “Self” first and then you must be able to “feel” where that “Self” is geographically speaking.

So let’s start with the first part. In order to get an experience of your “Self” think of some quality or characteristic that you like about yourself. Then spend some time appreciating yourself for this quality or characteristic.

Now as you do this notice where you experience the feelings of appreciation. Do these feelings feel like they’re inside you or outside of you? Now most people will feel such feelings inside the boundaries of their bodies (i.e. the definition of the word “inside”).

There are some of you however who may experience such feelings outside of the physical body. If you do then this is an indication of where you are in relation to your body. That is because “you” are doing the appreciating and therefore the location of those feelings correspond to where you are.

Now the “you” I’m referring to is the “life energy” that is you.
So if this life energy that is you is outside of your physical body what is the consequence to your physical body of you existing outside of it?

In order to appreciate the answer to this question notice how your body feels to you when you find yourself outside of it. If you are able to carry out this observation I think you will recognize that your physical body will appear and feel de-energized. Another way of saying that is that your physical body is lacking the life energy that is required to sustain it in health. In other words it is dying!

Are you surprized? Well you really shouldn’t be because most of you at some time or other find yourself outside of your bodies. How do I know this? I know it because if you look at your physical body you’ll notice that it has been aging and another way of saying this is that it has been dying. Yes, aging and dying are the same thing, although many of us prefer to hide this fact from ourselves by using the more “graceful” former term.

What is it that causes us to leave our bodies unattended even for a brief moment? Well if you notice how it feels to be in your body when there is pain or emotional hurt in it you will recognize that this experience is not a pleasant one. It is at these times that we often want to be as far away from the pain as possible.

The “belief” is that by getting as far away from our bodies the better we will feel. From the discussion above that is like saying: “death will bring me peace”. How does that feel to you?

In my experience as a psychiatrist and healer I have observed how individuals who have experienced trauma of one sort or another during their lives have made such a choice to abandon their bodies.

At the same time it doesn’t require one to experience severe or acute trauma in order for one to make this choice. Over one’s life time the small misfortunes and dissapointments that we all experience and contribute to our rising stress levels have the exact same effect.

That effect is to seduce us into believing that leaving our bodies unattended thereby making them vulnerable to aging and death is going to make us feel better. I have never noticed in all my years as a physician anyone who felt good as they were dying.

In order for your body to remain healthy and for you to feel good your body requires “you” to remain in it at all times!

Hence the solution to the discomfort you have stored in your body as emotional trauma is NOT to leave the body, it is to purge the trauma!

Using a new process called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) over the last 10 years I have observed how individuals have been able to release such trauma simply and permanently and how they have been able to return their life energy more fully back to the body.

This has left their bodies feeling and looking younger, more resilient and more alive.

If you’d like to experience this for yourself kindly visit the web link below and request an introductory consultation.

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Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called “Spirituality And Science” (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of “Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation” (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

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March 31st, 2008

Helping Other Cope with Loss

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As friends, relatives or others who care, there is nothing more difficult then watching those we care about endure painespecially the pain that comes from unexpected tragedy. As a society who is untrained in how to help, we may feel confused or unsure of how to best support those we care for. The following guidelines can help you support your loved one during dark times.

Don’t try to find the magic words or formula to eliminate the pain. Nothing can erase or minimize the painful tragedy your friend or loved one is facing. Your primary role at this time is simply to “be there.” Don’t worry about what to say or do, just be a presence that the person can lean on when needed.

Don’t try to minimize or make the person feel better. When we care about someone, we hate to see them in pain. Often we’ll say things like, “I know how you feel,” or “perhaps, it was for the best,” in order to minimize their hurt. While this can work in some instances, it never works with grief.

Help with responsibilities. Even though a life has stopped, life doesn’t. One of the best ways to help is to run errands, prepare food, take care of the kids, do laundry and help with the simplest of maintenance.

Don’t expect the person to reach out to you. Many people say, “call me if there is anything I can do.” At this stage, the person who is grieving will be overwhelmed at the simple thought of picking up a phone. If you are close to this person, simply stop over and begin to help. People need this but don’t think to ask.

Talk through decisions. While working through the grief process many bereaved people report difficulty with decision making. Be a sounding board for your friend or loved one and help them think through decisions.

Don’t be afraid to say the name of the deceased. Those who have lost someone usually speak of them often, and believe it or not, need to hear the deceased’s name and stories. In fact, many grievers welcome this.

Remember that time does not heal all wounds. Your friend or loved one will change because of what has happened. Everyone grieves differently. Some will be “fine” and then experience deep grief a year later, others grieve immediately. There are no timetables, no rulesbe patient.

Remind the bereaved to take care of themselves. Eating, resting and self-care are all difficult tasks when besieged by the taxing emotions of grief. You can help by keeping the house stocked with healthy foods that are already prepared or easy-to-prepare. Help with the laundry. Take over some errands so the bereaved can rest. However, do not push the bereaved to do things they may not be ready for. Many grievers say, “I wish they would just follow my lead.” While it may be upsetting to see the bereaved withdrawing from people and activitiesit is normal. They will rejoin as they are ready.

Avoid judging. Don’t tell people how to react or handle their emotions. Simply let them know that you will help in any way possible.

Share a Meal. Invite the bereaved over regularly to share a meal or take a meal to their home since meal times can be especially lonely. Consider inviting the bereaved out on important dates like the one-month anniversary of the death, the deceased’s birthday, etc.

Make a list of everything that needs to be done with the bereaved. This could include everything from bill paying to plant watering. Prioritize these by importance. Help the bereaved complete as many tasks as possible. If there are many responsibilities, find one or more additional friends to support you.

Make a personal commitment to help the one grieving get through this. After a death, many friendships change or disintegrate. People don’t know how to relate to the one who is grieving, or they get tired of being around someone who is sad. Vow to see your friend or loved one through this, to be an anchor in their darkest hour.

For more information and help, please visit www.griefsteps.com
by Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D.

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Adapted from I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: surviving, coping and healing after the sudden death of a loved one by Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D. (Champion Press, 2000) http://www.championpress.com ISBN 1-891400-27-4 $14.95 For more information and articles, please visit http://www.griefsteps.com